When you are making decisions that affect your children, each decision should start out with the Parenting Mantra.
- What are the essential facts?
- What is your goal?
- How do the facts and your goal affect your children?
- Will your actions accomplish your goal?
As you organize information to present to your lawyer, or the custody evaluator, or the judge, go through the Parenting Mantra in talking about the information that you believe is important and should be given to the custody evaluator or judge in order to make an informed decision.
Custody disputes do not need to be battles. The more you view the custody dispute as a battle, the more likely you are to view your children as potential casualties of war, and no parent reasonably wants that for their children. Rather, be as calm and as factual as possible so that good decisions can be made that will minimize damage to your children.